No one said marriage was easy.
Just last week, we learned about the moments people knew they had gotten married too fast. One of those "aha" moments was spouses dishing out ultimatums.
These kind of situations never go down well. Yet, one wife on Reddit gave her husband two options: turn down his dream job or get divorced.
Keep reading to learn more.
From there, Reddit users decide whether the original poster is in the wrong or not.
Or, "YTA" or "NTA," which stands for "You're The [Expletive]" and "Not The [Expletive]."
While this sounds like news to celebrate, just wait until you hear the backstory.
This began with her explaining that she is a 33-year-old female who is married to her 36-year-old husband.
She makes an income of 200k a year (with the potential to make much more) in her highly niched job. This makes her the breadwinner of their household.
The trouble all started when he landed an interview for his dream job at an organization that puts her job stability at risk.
"My company and this org. are adversarial, at best," she wrote.
She added, without exaggeration, that she wouldn't be able to get a job in the industry forever.
Given this high level of risk that would put her career, reputation, and income at stake, she asked him to drop consideration for the job.
"He was extremely angry, and said I was 'selfish and only cared about money,'" she wrote.
"I told him that if he wanted to go back to school for an advanced degree or just be unemployed for a while, I would support him, but taking this job isn’t possible."
He eventually got the job offer and expressed that he wanted to accept.
"He says his career needs to take priority and that I wasn’t being a supportive wife." This put the woman in a tough position that we don't envy.
"I told him he could decline the offer, w/me watching him physically decline it, or he could accept the offer and move out immediately. I would pay for him to stay two weeks at a hotel, and we would begin divorce proceedings. My company is willing to take care of all of my legal fees."
In response, he called her heartless and cold. She concluded her post with this:
"It’s true that I was prioritizing my career over his, but it felt like the only option at the time."
"You aren’t choosing between your husband and your career. You are choosing to not be with a man who is willing to sabotage your future over a job offer," shared one user.
Others pointed out that the husband is in the wrong over the lack of trust.
Another pointed out how he was gaslighting her by "making you believe his choices are your fault."
Some Redditors were on the husband's side. "What the hell is wrong with you people?" wrote this user.
"Fill out a conflict of interest disclosure form, don't talk about work at home, and move the hell on," this user wrote.
In the end, though, the general consensus was this: the wife was not in the wrong.
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